Trail 3: From competition to consciousness (self-awareness)
A trail map from competition to consciousness and self-awareness: from grasping to renunciation, lack to abundance, need to want, defensiveness to curiosity. Its key is vulnerability and honesty, its practices include metta, tonglen, just-like-me and seeing our obstacles in what we judge in others, and its outcomes are generosity, connection and community.
Also called:
- From grasping to renunciation
- From being focused on lack to being focused on abundance
- From need to want
- From defensiveness to curiosity
- From confusion to clarity
Symptoms:
- Competitiveness
- Neediness
- Isolation
- Not been seen, feeling misunderstood
- Judgemental
- Meanness / spitefulness / wanting revenge
- I’ll show them
Key to travel the path: Vulnerability / Honesty
Important practices:
- Metta
- Tonglen
- As without, so within - see our obstacles in what we judge & react to in others
- Just-like-me
- Vision Web
Typical obstacles:
- Defensiveness
- Jealousy
- Fear of intimacy
- What about me (self-centeredness)
- Resentments
- Isolation
Outcomes:
- Generosity
- Connection
- Abundance
- Intimate relationships
- Deep friendships
- Emotional intelligence
- Community
- Happiness
To learn more, follow these links to related content:
Along
Practice
Metta: Loving Kindness for All BeingsHere's the practice that wrenches the heart open — loving-kindness for yourself, and for the ones you're in conflict with, maybe even hate. This is where competition starts melting into connection.
Inner and Outer PathWhat you judge and react to in others is showing you something inside you. Turn the mirror around — as without, so within — and the obstacles you see out there become workable in here.
Reclaim Your Freedom and Trust: Basic Goodness Training Part 2In traffic, in line, at the colleague who drives you mad — just like me. Three words that dissolve the scoreboard. Come practice them out in the world.
Vision Web: Creating Integration Through Visual PracticeLack says every area of your life is fighting every other one for scraps. Vision Web shows you how they can feed each other. Pick up a pen — this one you draw.
What’s next
Along
Practice