Trail 4: From Escaping Reality to Creating Reality
A trail map from escaping reality to creating it: from the victim/bully dynamic to your own power, from have-to to get-to, from unconscious to conscious creation. Its key is focus, placing your attention, and its practices include What Do You Want, Be, Do, Have, the Reality Creation Loop, So What, Now What and fearlessness practice.
Also called:
- From victim/bully dynamic to being in your own power
- from have-to to get-to
- from decision to choice
- From past-present orientation to future-present orientation
- from unconscious creation to conscious creation
- from being time-bound to attention-directing
Symptoms:
- constantly falling out of healthy habits
- deep depression
- constantly asking why things are happening to you
- drama
- always pulled back by the gravity of suffering
Key to travel the path: Focus (Place your Attention)
Important practices:
- What do you want
- Be, Do, Have
- Reality Creation Loop
- So what, now what (fully come to terms with what is, then engage with what you want)
- Fearlessness practice (stop escaping)
- Start where you are
Typical obstacles:
- Addictions
- Dissociations
- Blaming
- Yeah-but
- Attachment to the way things have been
- Comfort in wallowing
Outcomes:
- Freedom
- Getting whatever we (truly) want and need
- Relaxation, equanimity
- Fulfillment, living our purpose
- Empowerment
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So What, Now WhatBefore you reach for what you want, fully come to terms with what is. Say 'so what' out loud until the self-blame empties out. 'Now what' comes later — it's a different part entirely.
What Do You Want?You can't place your attention on what you want until you know what that is. Sit down and dig — area by area, beneath the form, to the feeling your heart is actually after.
Be, Do, Have'Yeah, but' is on this trail's list of obstacles — and it's the marker of Have-Do-Be thinking. Flip it: be it first, right now, and move from recreating the past to creating what you want.
The Reality Creation LoopNotice. Become willing. Place your attention on what you want. This is how conscious creation actually happens — in your mind, many times a day, over and over.
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