Discover-Choose Exercise
After discovering what you want, it's time to choose: pick one, two or three wants to focus on — no more — by feeling into each, circling the most important ones (even the scary ones), and committing, which means saying no to other things for now. If a want is scary, that probably means you really want it.
Choose What You Want
In the first couple of exercises we have been involved with Discovering what you want. Now it’s time to Choose.
How Many to Choose?
I recommend 1, 2, or 3 things to focus on. For myself I have found 3 to be the right number, but that I could at any one time really only work on around 2 of them. But depending on what’s going on 1 might absolutely be the right thing to work with so you’re not overwhelmed with this.
If you pick too many (for me that’s more than 3) then it just just too much and our energy is split up in too many directions. I often work with one want in the area of career and money, one in the area of how I want to feel generally (peaceful, content, loving, etc.) and then another one that might be my body, or my relationship, or whatever is most important. But they could be in any of the seven areas that we listed in the first article.
EXERCISE
Step 1: Feel Each One
Look at the list of ways you want to feel. Allow yourself to feel into the energy of each of them.
Step 2: What’s Most Important
What are the most important ones right now? Circle a few.
It’s likely that there are some that are easy and some that feel hard. The deepest wants are often the ones we are most scared of. For now just mark the ones that feel most important, even if they feel very very hard. You don’t have to choose those ones, we just want to illuminate them for ourselves.
Step 3: Choose……
Now, take your time, and choose. 1 or 2 or 3. That’s it. No more. We must choose. Which means saying no to other things right now. Not that they are not important, they are, but for right now we need to choose where we put our attention.
What’s Next
Now that you have chosen what you want to create in your life, let that settle. See if it’s what’s most important. Even if it is scary, especially if it’s scary, because that probably means you really want it. Especially if you don’t know how you will make this work, that’s why you’re stuck because you’re scared you don’t know the answer. That’s ok. We’ll work on that next. If this was easy you would have already solved it.
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