The Playful Path to Conscious Confidence
I’ve written this guide as a starting point to my body of work: how to get unstuck, how to dive into what your heart really wants, and to get into flow with it.
9 items- ForewordCoyote introduces himself, his style of playful wisdom, and this guide as a starting point to his body of work. His one urgent request: actually do the practices — take the medicine, don't leave it on the shelf.
What Do You Want?A practical guide to excavating your authentic desires through systematic self-examination, recognizing that what you truly want is always a feeling beneath surface goals.
Developing ClarityMost of the time we live in past-present orientation, unconsciously re-creating yesterday — even re-inventing what we remember. Clarity about what you want now shifts you into future-present orientation and conscious creation, beginning with sorting your wants into the forms you chase and the feelings beneath them.
Discover-Choose Your FutureDiscover-Choose recognizes that fulfillment is already present within you, waiting to be uncovered through engagement with what's here now—while Seek-Find traps you in endless external searching for happiness that seems always elsewhere.
Discover-Choose ExerciseAfter discovering what you want, it's time to choose: pick one, two or three wants to focus on — no more — by feeling into each, circling the most important ones (even the scary ones), and committing, which means saying no to other things for now. If a want is scary, that probably means you really want it.
Care How You FeelHow much do you really care how you feel — at the level of sharing a meme, or of standing in front of a tank? A choice isn't a choice until it is accompanied by committed action, and the core practice is to care how you feel enough to choose it, over and over, no matter what.
Be, Do, HaveWe think it goes Have, Do, Be — get the job, the partner, the body, and then we'll be happy. It actually goes Be, Do, Have: be who you want to be right now, let action flow from that, and the having follows, which is what makes transformation permanent rather than temporary.
The Reality Creation LoopA practical three-step mental practice for creating a new reality: Notice where your attention is, Become Willing to do something about it, and Place your Attention on What You Want — being it right now. It is a loop, to practice over and over all day long.
Personal StoryYou are not alone: Coyote invites you to reach out and to learn to be vulnerable with others, then shares thirteen transformations of his own — shame, trauma and grief, addiction, his body, depression and suicidal ideation, debt, chronic pain, fear, death — as proof the practices work, and as the reason the path is playful.